To live from love and compassion and joy and all, and to live from these self resourced places, what actually seems to be needed is to address the fears, acknowledge them and address them head on.

Are you thinking your thoughts or are they thinking you? By bringing conscious awareness to your thoughts and applying the Internal Family Systems model to what you notice, you can trust your unconscious thoughts to serve you.

What’s wrong with being a nice guy? Nothing in and of itself. But when being a nice guy (or girl) is a strategy to accomplish a hidden agenda, there’s a problem.